Relationships are not easy to maintain. Depending on the people involved, there is a lot that they have to do for the relationship to survive and flourish. These days when we look around us, we see more relationships failing than prospering. This is a result of partners not trying hard enough to make the relationship work. If you want a healthy relationship, here are 10 ways to go about it.
1) Avoid Criticising
Most couples in the heat of the moment or in an argument tend to point to their partners and criticise something about them. It could be something about their personality or their character, but criticising anything about your partner is a bad idea. Instead, share something that you don’t like about yourself and discuss about that in a way that you are inviting your partner to share as well.
2) Stop Being Defensive About Yourself
If and when you are criticised by your partner, don’t get defensive straightaway or even start counterattacking. It’s best to accept the criticism, digest and take responsibility. Invite your partner to talk to you on how they feel about your problem.
3) Don’t Act Like You Are Better and Superior
No one likes it when you act like you are better. Stop talking down to your partner. Act like this should be avoided if you want to have a healthy relationship with your partner. What’s more? Belittling someone is not good for your partner’s mental health as well.
4) Always Co-Operate And Work Together
Refusing to co-operate or shutting your partner out is probably the worst thing you can do in your relationship. That way, you are showing your partner that you don’t care at all about everything, including your relationship. It’s always best to work things out by communicating with your partner. It’s wise to understand your partner’s point of view as well.
5) Take Time To Learn About Each Other
Ever come across couples, who have been together for years and know everything about each other? Want to know why? It’s because they have taken the time out to know their partner inside and out. It’s one of the most powerful tools to make a relationship work. Ask your partner questions, especially deep personal questions, so that you can get to know more and understand the person that your partner is.
6) Engage Positively
During small talks, always be positive in the way you communicate with your partner. When you respond positively, you welcome your partner’s thoughts, which means a lot to your partner. It also shows that you are making an effort to make the relationship work. Being communicative also paves the way for your relationship to flourish. You will argue less and understand each other more.
7) Have A Sense Of Humour
It doesn’t mean that you should laugh at everything in your relationship. Having a little of humour in your relationship is something that you should share with your partner. It does make a big difference when couples are able to laugh and smile even when they are arguing about something. Humour, if used in the right way, is a very powerful tool to make a relationship work.
8) Show How Much You Admire Your Partner
Usually when people are crazy in love, they go around selflessly praising their partners. Well, this is a good method to keep the relationship going; continue showing your admiration to your partner and bring yourself to see the positive side of him/her.
9) Celebrate The Positives
There’s a negative and positive part to every human being. The best way to have a long lasting relationship is to bring out the positives more than the negatives. When you think to yourself about the state of your relationship and about your partner’s qualities, celebrate the positives more to feel happy and grateful with your situation.
10) Solve Problems Together
When couples have problems, they often think the grass is greener on the other side. Instead of working through their problems, they opt for the easy way out. Every couple goes through problems and the best way out of them is to solve the problems together.